Talk Dirty To Me!

Doing the Nasty! Banging! Quickie! Fucking! Humping! Coitus! Making Whoopie! Bumping Uglies! Mattress Dancing! Boinking! Screwing! Hanky Panky!

Whatever you call it, sex is an amazing part of our lives…or at least it should be (if you aren’t having sex, I am so sorry…we will talk about that another time).  There is connection between two people that is only found during some of our most intimate moments.  A time every day when all else fades into the background and pure bliss consumes you both.  It’s incredibly earth-shattering, right?!

HAHAHA----I got jokes!

Let’s be honest…adults (single or in a relationship) don’t usually find time every day for a little lovin.  For whatever reason, sex has become an afterthought, a scheduled weekly or {GASP} monthly event.  Your job, your lack of sleep the night before, a “headache”, your TV shows…they have all taken a priority over sexy time between two partners.  It’s ok…we don’t NEED sex every day.  Trust me…I was that girl who was going 6 months between playtimes.  After DoodleBug came along, sex was a thing of the past.  It was a factor in the dissolve of my marriage, although not by any means the final straw.  We all have dry spells. 

Women need to feel desired, wanted, needed…for more than just being Mom, Chef, Laundry Washer, and someone to listen.  We don’t ask for things (ok, most of us don’t…I am fully aware of those ‘needy’ ladies.  Someone please slap them and tell them to shut up!) We are strong and just go about our lives pushing our desires down deep so as not to appear weak.  But seriously ladies---SEX IS IMPORTANT! What you want in bed (or on the kitchen counter, in the shower, backseat of the car, etc—no judgement here) matters! Guys don’t read our minds (I know, they should have figured that out by now…but they don’t).  They are just as self-conscious as we are. 

Now, I am going to let you into my life a little bit…The Biker is a little different than most men…he researches sex.  Not in that ‘gross, porn-obsessed’ way, but in a way that shows he cares and wants to make it good….for both of us! What an awesome concept! He makes me talk about what I want (it’s a lot easier with a little liquid courage in my system), asks me about my desires, and gives me a platform to try new things.  I know many guys aren’t going to do this…but hear me out! Let’s try doing this for our men!! Give them the safe space to talk about sex.  Not in a judgmental way that says “I hate it when you do this” or “If only your dick were a little bigger” but in the same way we talk about planning a vacation.  Get excited, be honest, (pour a little courage for each of you), and TALK ABOUT SEX!

Trust me…it makes a difference! Now go have wild, uninhibited sex…like you are a carefree college kid (minus the walk of shame and fear of pregnancy scares the next day)! Have fun!!